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Farm a friendship with death - grief-loss


Why We Fear Death

"Men fear death as family fear to go in the dark. " - Bacon

There may be a thousand reasons why we fear death, but most of all we fear death as we fear the unknown, and death is an mysterious creature to most people. We fear that dying may be anguished and we do not know what will come to pass to us at the point of death.

Some ancestors fear death as they assume the dying administer to be very painful. Death is not painful. In fact, death is often very peaceful and silent even for those anguish from cancers or other airport illness.

When the bodily body is worsening day by day from a computer illness, and pain arises from superficial wound such as bed sores, or deep pain such as bone or nerve pain, death may even be a acceptable relief for the sufferer.

We need to differentiate the pain of the animal body from the course of dying. The dying administer is a conspicuous deal with that is break away from the corrosion of the corporal body. At the point of death, there is no pain.

What happens at death is the close of the breath and all other physiological functions of the bodily body. The heart stops pumping and the blood flow stops moving. The body stops generating heat, and thus little by little turns cold.

For those who consider that we are more than just a animal body, and that we are in fact spiritual beings, the dying course of action means much more than just bodily death. Death is just a accepted deal with that allows us to discard the brute body as we move into the spiritual realm.

Since our fear of death is due to the fact that we do not know or appreciate death, it makes sense to familiarise ourselves with it. The more we be au fait with death, the less we fear it. We must hence farm a friendship with death, and be absolutely customary with it, just as we are comfortable with our friends.

We can encourage a friendship with death in three austere steps:

1. Confirm a link with God.
2. Encourage a habit of acceptance, in its place of blame.
3. Be a blessing to others.

Establish a link with God.

By establishing a link with God, we touch base with our own spirituality. God can be anything you perceive God to be. For Christians, Muslims and Hindus, that may mean an unstoppable God. For Buddhists, it may mean the Buddha seed within. Atheists may have to come to term with their own spirituality.

Establishing a link with God means re-gaining your spirituality. It leads you nearer to the spiritual appearance of yourself. Whether we acknowledge it or not, we are more than just this corporal body. When we die, we leave this animal body after and only our religious studies continues on.

It is for that reason basic for us to be customary with our own spirituality. It is the only part of us that continues after death. This 'fact' is in accordance with all major religions.

Cultivate a Habit of Acceptance.

It is funny how when good clothes come to us, we eagerly admit them as all the same we deserve them or we have worked hard for them, yet when calamities come about us we abruptly look for an outdoor cause to blame.

This is above all so when misfortunes such as computer illness come to pass us. We may blame God, and later blame ourselves or colonize about us. We must develop a habit of nonaligned status anyhow of whether good or bad clothes come our way. Otherwise, we can befall very bitter about life when destructive clothes happened. Looking for a big shot or amazing to blame only serve to prolong our own suffering. Death is an enemy when we resist it, but the minute we acknowledge it, it turns into an ally.

However, calming a habit of acceptance does not mean not doing everything to acceptable or advance our conditions. It does not mean, for example, that when we are diagnosed with a computer illness we do nil about it. It is only aware to seek treatment, if it is free to us. On the other hand, it also means we must know and acknowledge when remedial conduct is no longer possible. We fear death only when we garbage to face it.

Unfortunately, there are corrupt colonize who would take help of our fear of death to sell their 'cure'. In my be subjected to with the terminally ill, I have come diagonally countless stories of dying associates being duped into leave-taking with their savings and properties in the hope of achieving a cure.

Be a Blessing to Others.

This is our most and most trustworthy ally at the time of death.

Knowing that we have been advantageous to others and that we have tried to live a above suspicion life takes away the fear of death. If our life has been an candid one, free of any conscious meaning to hurt any alive beings, we have nobody to fear when death approaches. Our mind will be at peace, undisturbed.

On the other hand, those who lead selfish lives, and harm others to get diminutive return for themselves, find themselves imprisoned in tiny, dark cells when they move to the other side.

Therefore, while we still can, we ought to give our best to the world and to ancestors about us. Lend a plateful hand to others and help to darken their loads. Bring joy to the joyless and comfort to those in need of comfort. There are many who are less fortunate than us. Count our blessings and be a blessing to others.

Tim Ong is a health physician with more than 14 years of come across in ancestors medicine. He is the cause of the online "Build From Within" ezine and "The Book of Transformation". He is also the webmaster of http://www. theselfimprovementsite. com


What I Learned About Resilience in the Midst of Grief  Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley

The blindside wipeout of grief  Minneapolis Star Tribune

The Five Stages of Earring Loss  The New York Times

Why Are We Afraid of Grief?

MP CM expresses grief  United News of India

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